What if we are doing it all wrong…?


Hello Beautiful Souls,

Yay, this is officially my first blog post.

As I write this, I think about all the things I have tried all the negative thoughts I have thought about myself, all the advice people have given me and the steps I have taken. Even though I am far from where I want to be, I finally feel like I am on the right path.

Our life is so fast tracked at the moment, instant gratification, take this pill and my life will change. We don’t stop and process anything, the only process we are getting is processed food and that’s because it is quick and easy, but then our bodies can’t process it correctly. We are having this internal fight with ourselves that we are not good enough, that we are too fat, too thin, not happy enough, not social enough, what ever your inner voice tells you. There is a deeper reason for all of this, although we may never know the exact reason or moment we started disrespecting ourselves, it shows up in in many ways, from how we talk to ourselves, how we see others, what we eat, how we eat and the list goes on. We then come to a moment where we decide we need to change my lifestyle, whether it be to lose weight, start exercising, stop smoking ¬†or just eating healthy. How long does this last for, if you have even started at all? What stops you?

What if we are starting in the middle instead of at the beginning? What if we are not building a strong foundation for our changes and instead just building on top of loose ground? Here is my theory, we have so much baggage in all shapes of forms, whether it be emotional, physical, mental, spiritual, we have our stuff and it varies how much baggage we carry around with us. Now answer me this…. How do you move forward with such heavy baggage and if you do move forward how long do you go for until you get tired and fall back into old habits, old routines, the comfortable uncomfortable?

I just want to say, don’t be so hard on yourself, we all have demons we are fighting, they just don’t all look the same. Now what you do need to do is start moving forward, start at the very beginning, start unpacking your baggage, start cleaning out your closet in all sense of the word, mentally, physically, emotionally. Start processing it all, working through it and then let it go, become lighter. If you feel you can not process or do something on your own get help from either¬†family, friends or a professional. Look around you, how much physical clutter do you have, stuff you don’t need, stuff you may have bought to fill a void, get rid of it, donate it, let go, you are the only one who is going to fill that void. Look at how much of your past you are holding on to emotionally, are you playing victim to your circumstances to your struggles? You are in the driver of your life, it’s time to take the wheel and steer yourself in the direction you choose, yes there will be bumps, corners, potholes, obstacles, and bad weather, but you have a choice. Start unpacking, start processing so you can take control and not have your emotions and feelings have control of you. Start building your foundation and make it strong, so that when we get to the lifestyle change, we can start building with confidence, that when that big bad wolf comes to huff and puff (he will come), that your house stands strong.

Even though the difficult times will still be there, the excuses won’t, you will be changing from a place of power instead of a place of vulnerability.

Let’s start unpacking…